Is Your Relationship Costing You Too Much?
Each year we are shocked that Christmas is almost here and what- no money? Was this years date a surprise, ha ha ha. It seems silly but like most of us Christmas time seems to creep up and we find ourselves with out the cash to give all those delightfully expensive gifts we see on the “Oprah List”, shopping, on “QVC”, or the many adds that pile in the mail box.
Ok, so this might seem a bit out there for some, but I have a girlfriend and she seems to always be shopping for another reminder that they are in a relationship- the poor guy she is dating better catch on real quick that she expects the same in return (gifts that is) or he won’t last long in her world. So sad I think, she is missing the real meaning of a “relationship“.
Gradually he might figure it out but will she lose interest by then, who knows, what I know for sure is that any relationship based on material items is water in a bucket with a hole- it will eventually drain the relationship.
So what is her boyfriend supposed to do—well that’s for him to decide but for you and me we can right now make the decision to base relationships on trust, making memories together, sharing in each others hopes and dreams- no I do not work for Disney, it just seems to me that the simple things in life are usually the most precious.
So you are not one who has allot of time on their hands, that’s ok as technology continues to advance why not take advantage of sending a thought via the smallest form, a text message or tweet. Sometimes a person may have more time to look at a personalized email sent from you, or an ecard. Maybe you could even sit down and write a letter, sharing your feelings and gratefulness for this person in your life.
Being in a successful relationship should not mean going broke, it should be one of up-liftment, motivation to become a better you and the desire to be your best. Your partner should be your comfort, your guide, and best of all your support because you are only truly happy when you are being you and not trying to conform to something you are not. In a good relationship you should never want or try to seek out changing the other person.
Let your relationship be one of honesty, never should you try to change the other person into something that he/she is not and visa-versa. Take a step back and ask yourself what you really want in this relationship and how is that going? When you take a breather and look from a distance you will gather strength as to how to proceed; Best wishes.
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